Why Do People Shy Away From Their Hopes and Dreams?

While working in our Clinic today, I happened to access the internet and screaming out on the Homepage was a post on why people shy away from success and from making money. In fact, it hinted that many people sabotage themselves for varying degrees of reasons. It made me angry to think that other people are mainly to blame. I will quote two of the top reasons why: 1/ You’d rather not be a target – Money can inspire envy and jealousy from competitors,  family members, and friends. An old Japanese proverb says – The nail that sticks up gets pounded down.

Sad there is a proverb for this.

Sad there is a proverb for this.

This made me sick to my stomach, first of all, that there is a proverb for this situation. Second of all, we expect competitors to not like our success as we are taught this in school or in the media, but for friends and/or family too? Shame on friends or family members if they are behaving in this narcissitic, selfish manner. In fact, move away from them if they are. We support and uplift each other, not tear each other down!

2/ Your friends will hate you – You could say there are two ways friends are known to react to a peer who makes a fortune: either they stick their hands out (for $$$), or their tongues out. No one wants to be left out of the clique. The post adds – If your friends don’t like you for who you are – rich, poor, or otherwise – they weren’t your friends in the first place.

Self explanatory

Self explanatory

I agree with this point wholeheartedly. For me as a writer, I wondered why I felt such outrage when I read this article. Probably because I think there are many talented people out there not pursuing their dreams because they don’t want to rock the boat within their world, with their family or friends. Please heed my warning, if you are living your life to please others, you’re not living your life at all. We are here to be the best we can be, at whatever it is we discover to be our strength and inner passion, to help others while we are learning about ourselves. From the time I was young, I had many people say I wouldn’t amount to anything. In fact, our elementary school Vice Principal said I wouldn’t make it past grade 12. Well I did. At the University of Western Ontario I achieved an Honours degree in History and a Master degree in Library and Information Science: top of the class, too! In fact, when I finished my undergraduate degree, I was taken out for lunch by a History Professor and he invited me, on behalf of the History Department, to enroll in a PhD program with the goal of becoming a History Professor at Western. I was overwhelmed and delighted with the news but I had chosen to enter my Master’s degree to become a librarian. After all, I had worked as a student page for many years. Don’t let other people’s negativity, petty jealousy, envy, or rivalry get you down. Rise above it and pursue your dreams. I should also note I overcame financial despair. My parents went bankrupt before I finished first year of university. I paid my way for 4.5 years working at the university library and in third/fourth year I held two jobs plus full-time courses. If you want it, you have to persevere and work very hard.

This quote resonates within my soul.

This quote resonates within my soul.

Great quote spoken by Wayne Dyer and many others.

Great quote spoken by Wayne Dyer and many others.

Think on this quote above and you’ll see what he’s really saying.

I never thought in a million years that the little ebook I wrote titled Wake Me Up Inside would sell as many copies as it has…enough to self-publish in print editions too. And Destiny’s Gate is selling very well – print copies! Thanks to our son, J.R. Matheson, for joining this journey of mine. Where will it go from here? Who knows? But we are enjoying the honour and the privilege of meeting so many book lovers across Ontario, bookstore owners, and their staff, at instore book signings and book fairs.

Words my family and I live by.

Words my family and I live by.

 

Thank you so much to all who support the Paige Maddison Series. Know you too can change your life (if you’re unhappy) to pursue your dreams. I did not become an author until 2010 when I turned 50 years old. It just keeps getting better and better.

Positivity + hard work = success as determined by you!

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